Yes, this is old news. Campy, gossip, garbage news. I could lie, and say that I have been actively thinking about the stupidity of the uproar over Lena Dunham saying she wished she had an abortion, but I haven’t. The news hit under a week before Christmas, so life simply got in the way. But, since I have a bad habit of keeping a kajillion tabs open all the time, that one never got cleared, until today.
Dunham is an idiot. She’s established this many times, and even some of her fans would agree that she has a tendency of letting words come out of her mouth before thinking it through. In this case, I’m not sure that happened. Honestly, it looks like people who threw fits over her comments were the ones who were suffering from the malady of commenting before thinking. English is a difficult language, and is misunderstood far more often than most would like to admit. When Dunham said she wished she had an abortion, it probably wasn’t about actually “wanting” to have one. It definitely was about a desire to experience full empathy with others.
I’ll clarify that, since the point is that this whole situation was a matter of words misunderstood. Dunham seemed to be expressing both a desire to fully understand how women who have had abortions feel, and some level of guilt over previously pointing out that she hadn’t needed to have an abortion during her life. In other words, she wasn’t trying to glorify abortion, at all.
While hosting Women of the Hour, the Girls creator recalled a visit to a Texas Planned Parenthood years ago, during which a girl asked her to share her experience with abortion.
“I sort of jumped. ‘I haven’t had an abortion,’ I told her. I wanted to make it really clear to her that, as much as I was going out and fighting for other women’s options, I myself had never had an abortion,”recalled Dunham, 30.
“And I realized then that even I was carrying within myself stigma around this issue. Even I, the woman who cares as much as anybody about a woman’s right to choose, felt that it was important that people know that I was unblemished in this department.”
Context is everything, and that definitely is the case here. I’m sorry, but I don’t get where the outrage came from on this. Were the people who got upset thinking that Dunham was looking down on women who had abortions? Well, that would be wrong, because she characterized women she knows who have had abortions as “brave.” Are they upset that she publicly admitted to discovering that she personally had attached some kind of stigma to having an abortion? Well, if they are, the whole point of Dunham’s comments were to point out how she was trying to uproot that way of thinking. Again, if they were thinking she wishes she had an abortion because it’s “cool” or something equally vacuous, that isn’t the case either.
No, Dunham was speaking from a guilty conscience, and perhaps a recognition of personal hypocrisy. It is fairly disingenuous to run around preaching about a woman’s right to choose, while secretly feeling there’s a stigma attached to having an abortion.
So, please stop attacking Dunham (and anyone else in the spotlight) until you bother to really listen to what was said. Seriously, I don’t like being in this position – defending someone who I normally can’t stand.
Lena Dunham Did Not Want an Abortion